Can't quite remember where or when I picked up this way of thinking, but it has stayed with me for many years. I suppose I started thinking this way in earnest when my first child arrived in this world 26 years ago. The thought process goes like this. What would you expect your child to do in a situation when no one was watching or could find out? When the consequences of his actions would be known to no one but himself. Armed with that way of thinking, I have always tried to do my best when faced with a situation or situations when no one in the world would know of my actions.
Let me give an example. Today I was at Wallmart (another story) and while pushing my cart between the rows and rows of cars in the parking lot, I clipped a side view mirror of an auto. I definitely damaged the mirror, pushed it out of it's holder. It wasn't the kind of side view mirror that popped out when pushed and could easily be popped back in. No - my cart decided to attack an older model car and alter the mirror. I looked around to see if the owner was in the vicinity (nope) and immediately made the decision to put my contact information folded onto his or her windshield and then I went along my way.
After damaging the car, my very first thought was "what would I want my boys to do in the same situation?" The answer was obvious to me and the only right thing to do was done. Sometime later I received a call from a gentleman who thanked me for leaving my info, and we agreed he would get back to me when he had a chance to get a report on the damaged inflicted by me.
It's not a big deal as a stand alone event. The damage is probably minimal, but the damage to my way of thinking in the matter of what is right or wrong would be immense. I know my boys would of done the same thing.
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